The Values Trap
Self-Awareness & Career Direction • Post 2 of 7
The Values Trap — Why Picking Words From a List Doesn’t Work
Self-Awareness & Career Direction — Post 2 of 7
At some point, you’ve probably done a values exercise. Maybe in a workshop, a coaching session, or an online quiz. You were given a list of words — integrity, achievement, creativity, family, adventure — and asked to circle the ones that felt right. You picked five. You felt okay about them. And then nothing much changed.
That’s the values trap. And it catches a lot of people. Here’s why it happens — and what to do instead.
The problem with picking from a list
When you’re handed a list of values, a few things tend to go wrong. First, you often pick what sounds good rather than what’s actually true. “Integrity” is hard to argue with. “Excellence” looks impressive. But do those words actually describe what drives you — or what you think should drive you?
Second, a word on a page carries no weight on its own. “Creativity” means something completely different to a graphic designer, a problem-solver, and someone who needs variety in their day. Without connecting the word to your actual experience, it’s just a label — and labels don’t help you make better decisions.
Values need to come from your story, not a menu
The most useful values work starts not with a list, but with your own history. Think about the moments in your work life that felt most meaningful. Not the impressive moments — the alive moments. What were you doing? Who were you with? What did the work allow you to contribute or express?
Now think about the moments that felt most draining. What was missing? What felt like it was working against your grain? Those two sets of moments, held side by side, will tell you more about your values than any checklist ever could.
How to make values actually useful
Once you’ve surfaced a value through your own experience, test it with a simple question: has this shown up consistently across different jobs, different teams, different periods of my life? If the answer is yes, it’s likely a genuine value — not just a mood or a phase. If it only showed up once, it might be a preference or a reaction to a specific situation.
Genuine values are durable. They don’t change with a job title or an industry. They travel with you — and they’re the only compass reliable enough to navigate a real career transition.
Take It Further
Values Reality Check
A coaching conversation that helps you test whether your current values list is genuinely yours — or borrowed — and rebuilds it from your own work history so it’s actually useful.
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